Jack and I watched the original “Matrix” movie over the weekend. At least 10 years have passed since I saw it last. Boy, there’s a lot to like about that movie, an updated, action-packed Plato’s Cave, allegorically lucid and fun at the same time. One early scene that especially resonates is when the agile Morpheus moves effortlessly through throngs of people on a crowded city sidewalk while Neo bumbles along behind him, bumping into everyone he passes, apologizing with every move.
Flow and no-flow. Morpheus is the embodiment of flow. Graceful. Aware. Focused. Fluid. Doing the needful and untroubled by the press of events around him. He even has his hands “tied behind his back.” Neo is no-flow. Confused. Fearful. Trying to maintain control in a world that feels chaotic and unknowable. Manic and slow at the same time.
I am especially interested in this flow/no-flow topic as it relates to relationships and conversations. Am I selling, controlling, bumping into ego and fear? Or am I open and fearlessly allowing connection with grace and ease?
The best way I know how to flow effortlessly with another is to drop formalities and launch into an exploration of direct experience. Ask questions with openness: what has surprised you about the work we are doing together? What has disappointed you? What has helped you feel most connected and effective?
I find when I drop the need to monitor or sell, the flow state just naturally emerges. Plus, it’s just so much more relaxing and interesting for everyone.
Which are you right now? Flow or no-flow? Morpheus or Neo?
I am too often Neo. Thanks for the reminder.
Great comments this morning, J. Steve and I have often used that movie to help couples in crisis “see” the baggage that is impeding oneness. So many layers of symbolism. Your thoughts are, as always, smack on.
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I enjoy reading all your posts. This one is an especially helpful message and metaphor! Many thanks.
Good imagery and reminder. In my manic day-to-day life, I feel like I actually slow everything down by trying to control every detail. Effortlessly moving through, with a clear and open mind, is a much better way to flow and also grow.
Being present and connected to others in a flow state…what a great image to keep as we progress through our day.
HI Jennifer:
Love your perspective on Flow… When you’re “in flow” it’s amazing how many moments of “synchronicity” and serendipity occur.
A great example of fundraising flow is Jacqueline Novogratz at Acumen Fund. I wrote a little diddy and listed “Synchronicity and Flow” as one of the most important takeaways from her book, the Blue Sweater.
Curious what you think about this article. Are you familiar with Rupert Sheldrake’s theory on the Morphogenetic Fields? I think it explains how “flow” comes about between people.
http://murfdipity.com/5-lessons-from-a-social-impact-genius/
PS – Morpheus. Definitely Morpheus. The One tends to get crucified and martyred. It pays off to be in flow, haha.